No cheating now. But she's got a foot out the door. She doesn't see a way back to passion, but i know there can be. Best friends is a good start ,i think. But sex and feeling connected sexually is very important. But how can i get her to understand that there is a way back?? How. and what do i do right now so as to not inflame the situation and hurt it more???
Exactly what DownNotOut said.
Stop initiating relationship discussion. Don't try to talk her into staying, or recognizing the importance of the marriage, etc., etc. That is considered "pursuing", and if you try to pursue a wayward spouse it pushes them farther away.
Work on reclaiming a positive mental attitude. Try spending time away from the house.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
