More crap from xW of late. She gave me the 3rd degree Tuesday night during my nightly call with my S's. I was explaining to S8 that I had been having some difficulty arranging for S5 to get his chief-most item on his Christmas wishlist --either from Santa or other sources. S8 started to get upset on his younger sibling's behalf and then xW butted in and started grilling me on the details. Why this and why that. After a very difficult day, I really didn't need her interferring in my convo with my S's.
So she promptly sent me a nasty gram via email (several before it was all done) upbraiding me for upsetting our oldest child. She included all the usual sharply worded diatribe about how horrible a person I am for failing my S's and then ruining her time with them by talking to S8 about it. I concede she has somewhat of a point, but otherwise it was her typical myopic rant, and as usual stimulated by her own ill will than anything else. Her so-called defense of our S's "interests" are nothing but a pretext for her getting her own digs into me.
(Incidentally, I have since managed to acquire the hard-to-find item that S5 had asked for.)
I don't know what to do sometimes. There just seems to be no winning with her around. She refuses to see that (1) S8 would have been just fine had she not also got on the line and raised her ire in front of him, and (2) that S8 has become waaaay to focused on the material aspects of Christmas -- so much so that he gets upset even if it looks like his little brother won't get his prime request -- and I feel like his attitude can most definitely be laid at her feet.
I am praying constantly now of days that, among other things, my S's can relax and have a joyous holiday this year without so much focus on gift-getting. I pray that I can somehow rectify their expectations and redirect their focus on what is most important at this time -- to take to heart the real reason for the holiday. This is the one gift for Christmas I want more than anything else -- even if I got nothing else I would count myself happy beyond belief.
