I have prepared all the paperwork myself and will go without a L initially. I had counsulted with a few so I have an idea of what to do and what is fair as far as child support, etc. She will likely use a L (she visited one a few weeks ago again) and will try to counter-sue most likely for something unreasonable, which will force me to get a L at that time most likely.
I just talked to an old friend of mine who went through a D, and his wife tried to take custody by coming up with false allegations of abuse and he had to spend $150k defending himself (he prevailed, but at huge cost!).
She had been pretty aggressively looking at rentals, etc in order to move out so I am going to stand back a little longer to see if she leaves on her own first. If she leaves then I will also file for D. It is highly unlikely that she goes anywhere as TrentC said. She has a good thing going. The only time she seems super-interested in leaving is if we have a blowup, which hasn't happened in about six weeks.
Either way (if she stays or goes), it looks like I will file.
For whatever reason I couldn't consider doing this a couple of months ago - I always told myself I would NEVER do this, but I am getting to the point where I just need to move on and have lost hope of things ever changing with her. I am feeling like a WAS now.
It is bound to happen to us at some point I guess - you can only go on in this state for so long I figure and she knows it. I almost feel like she has been waiting it out to force me to this point, but I almost don't care about that now.
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
