Well, I talked to H's atty today. She is going to set up a meeting whereby I will go to her office to pick up the divorce papers next week. She will have a plain-clothed civil service deputy there to witness the signing and will be available for me to "talk" afterwards.
All I can say is I tried my best to save this marriage. But one person cannot do it alone. No matter what the DB book says, the other partner has to be ammenable to, at least. talking in a face-to--face encounter, which my H never did from beginning until now, and continues to ignore.
It's one thing to try and save a marriage. It's another thing to have to put up a boundary to save your own soul. I was one who had to make that decision way back last year, when I realized there was -- what's it called -- constant infidelity. I know for a fact that H is laughing about Tiger's affairs with his friends. How does that strike me? It stikes me as my H thinks it funny because he's swimming in the same cesspool.
Here's my question, Coach...
How does one continue to try and save their marriage when boundaries have to be erected???
