Originally Posted By: luvless
I send him an email with the subject line I KNOW...then I say, "I have been a patient and understanding wife but it seems you do not have OUR best interests at hand. Think HARD about what you are doing! and he didn't respond right away.

He text me, I'm going to lunch and I didn't like your email and what you are insinuating in it...It seems like you just wanna fight and I'm just not gonna do it."
I respond to him saying, "I dont want to fight either I just needed to let you know.


So do you have definite proof of an affair? If not, there's no point in confronting him about it. People seem to think they can "trick" their spouses into admitting an affair, but real life isn't like Perry Mason.

Any cheater with half a brain will deny, deny, deny, even if you do demonstrate proof.

Your email probably came off as wishy-washy and desperate. You're not operating from a position of strength and he knows it.

Originally Posted By: luvless
I go back and forth thinking I should leave tonight alone and then the affair thing is eating at me and I just had to do it - it was a gamble but I thought he might listen tonight cuz how he is acting.


But it didn't work, did it?

You confront when you have proof. All you're doing now is demonstrating that you're insecure, emotional, and needy. Those are not attractive traits, and are more likely to push him towards the OW.


Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."