Wow, I haven't had a thread in a while! I have been divorced for almost two years now (which means X will be celebrating his 2 year anniversary soon ) I still get irritated by him fairly regularly, but most of it is minor. It all basically centers around the kids now. Here is today's issue. I just got an e-mail from him that said the following: D12 has a project due tomorrow that she wants my help on. It requires taking a video and video editing...it is unlikely that we will be able to complete it by 8:00PM. I can run her back when we are done or it may be easier if her and S10 stay the night, I am open either way... Here is my issue...I do not want D12 to receive a lower grade because of a late or poorly done project, but this is a project that was assigned several weeks ago and she talked to him about it then. (The only reason he is helping her with it is because he is the one with the video equipment and editing software, and even she was concerned with letting him help her because he blows things off until last minute all the time.) In addition, she told me last Thursday night when I dropped her off that they would be doing the project that night, which was an overnight visit. Apparently they did not do it then and as is his usual, it will be done at the last minute and he expects me to give up my time with the kids (and today is D12s birthday). I gave her her presents last night, but I still want to spend a little time with her this evening. We had planned to watch our recording of Glee. So what do I do? I sent him back an e-mail asking if 9:00 would be enough time. Do I stick to my guns and risk D12's grade? Another factor in my irritation in this is that I would bet $100 that he will not even be home when I drop the kids off, because he is not there about 90% of the time, which even the kids have pointed out is ridiculous. I have to drop them off at the scheduled visitation time, even though he isn't there. So I get the joy of dropping my kids off to spend time with the new Mrs. X.....formerly known as the OW!
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
) I still get irritated by him fairly regularly, but most of it is minor. It all basically centers around the kids now. 