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[Jack_Three_Beans]

I have found out some new stuff recently and it has made me respect you and all your life choices much more.

: ) Consider the source, every story has at least 3 sides to it.

There was a post on another thread the other day where we were referred to as "old-timers".

I actually don't like it when people call out to the 'old-timers' for advice. Seems like in their heads the 'old-timers' are the ones who got their marriages back and such. You know that limited view of 'success' when people first come here.
Those posts are almost like a fence to keep out people with amazing advice but only a short time in here.

Cool thing about fences is that they can be climbed over. : )

I always viewed it as if I had pertinent insight, and felt I could invest in someone I should post to them. But I also had to see some growth in the person after a 'reasonable' ammount of time, otherwise my time could be better spent elsewhere.

You know, basically if you feel like an 'old-timer' you are.

Some of the newer people (by registry date) are giving out advice that would make Snodderly proud.

Yes I just called out Snodderly. To me Snodderly is always going to be the queen of the DB boards and I still always get a warm feeling when she says I have good advice. Like a pat on the head. I normally don't care what most people think of me...or I play that indifference off really well except Snodderly. I still remember when she came down hard on me and Smurf for shortening her name. I do care what my friends think of me.

I am not entirely sure where I am going with this, there are so many good points brought up by so many people I respect.

I think Mach s right there has been a gap in coverage. BTW your thread would be as serious as you needed it to be for the day. Your thread you set the pace and tone.

T2, no one should feel pushed away. If a poster is posting advice contrary to DBing, then I think it is perfectly fine to call them out on it, and usually there is a reason why they are. And no, I am not talking about anyone in particular.

KS,

I think you're one of the greatest.

But I'm going to do something you might not like.

This is the person who for all intents and purposes was dating the happy cow during our marriage and lying about it. Who was dating the happy cow during our separation & divorce (and lying about it). The person who was dating the happy cow less than a year ago, but has a 5 month old baby, is engaged to be married...

Seriously I DO like you.

he couldn't understand why I couldn't let the past go (I have)

You...ahhh....sure about that?

That is what the newcomers board is all about. I gave some of my best advice to others when I was struggling the most with my own situation. Knowing the right words does not always mean obeying them.....

I have such a hard time posting on Newcomers...That place is like triage after a bombing. And I agree to the advice part some of my best thoughts were when I was hurting...but so was some of my most naive and fluffy bunny advice.

Ian is my friend, Ian is also the thorn in my ass. He keeps me level and grounded, he keeps my ego in check, and I am grateful, everytime I figuratively sit down. Ian came up with the term 'board persona'...which is amazingly true.

Jack is Jack here, but I am not Jack in real-life. I try to be. But, Jack is bigger than I am, better, through Jack I use the DB words when I am not living up to them.

Even when I am not/was not correctly DBing...I can still tell others what DBing should be. Hypocritical? Yes. Justified in mind, because I know what I should/should have been doing, and just because I was fukcing up, doesn't mean those I felt I was helping shouldn't still get help.

Reflective?
Must be the glitter. (screw you you can't get points if I take them away first)