Am I to be the outside force? As Gucci mentioned earlier?
Yes Britt, I believe so. When you "act as if" and also are able to hold a firm line with H about how you are approaching things, it creates a force to be reckoned with!
Just recently, now that we are "piecing" things back together, H has told me that this got his attention. He was forced to see that he could not continue in limboland. There was a choice to be made, and he began to realize, not only what he would be losing and throwing away with our family, but also the huge risks and gambles he was thinking of taking in leaving and continuing with OW.
It may not feeling like it at the time (because he won't show it or admit it easily or quickly), but that really does have a bigger impact than you know.
