So your wife has also never experienced an orgasm by herself either?
Exactly.
If I even try to bring up the topic, it's like I'm a pervert who should know better because she's made it clear she doesn't like talking about it. So by bringing it up, she knows that I know it's going to upset her. In which case, the only reason for me to bring it up is because I must be wanting to upset her. Which, of course, is the last thing she needs if she's going to try to feel sexual. The logic is airtight from her point of view. Frozen, vacuum-packed and Ziploc'ed.
And if I even try to touch her in a place most women would need to be touched to achieve an orgasm, even if it's during making love, same response -- I'm a pervert or something.
Sure, I knew this wasn't quite normal early in our marriage, but we were young and I thought for sure she'd get over this, as I bought into this phony wisdom about how virtually all women hit their sexual peak later in life when they've become more comfortable with their bodies, etc. Dumbest piece of advice ever as it applied to our marriage. It would have been much better to nip that problem in the bud long ago and had her explore the issues with a therapist when she was much more open-minded and motivated to improving our marriage.
