Ask your children what they want to get Mom for her birthday. Get it and sign a nondescript birthday card along with the kids. Providing a cake, imho, is too much. The REALITY of the path she says she will chose is exactly what I described above. In her fantasy divorce world, you will throw a little cake party so her children can celebrate her and everyone claps when she blows out the candle and give her a gift. In the real world of D, the kids will tell you what they want to get their mother, you will buy it b/c you have the capital and they don't, they'll give her that gift on her birthday and that will be it. Dose her with the reality. You don't give cakes to people who are divorcing you.
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