Taken on it's own, I think S5's statement was an overreaction to what H said. But.... I expect it is because of other things that H has been saying. In this instance, I think saying he would come by when you were not there would be because he is uncomfortable when you are there. Like I said I think S5's statement comes from other things he has heard.
I worry that your H only has his own interests in mind, and not the kids. In the end, I think he will be exposed, but with a 5 year old it is hard. It would be good if there was someone to tell him the kids feel like a part of both parents, and it hurts them to to have either parent run down the other.
I agree, he is reacting to other things H has said. When H first left, he told the kids he left because of me. The girls know better, but S5 is so young and impressionable.
Exposed how?
I am about to drop it down on him. I was willing to be somewhat reasonable with him, but messing with my kids' minds to just too much! That's where I can get evil. He's b!tching about the 3k in CS. Just effing wait you selfish b@stard! If he doesn't set this straight with the kids, and tell them he left because he chose to, I am really going to put the screws to him.
He asked me to help him get the kids to visit, and I have. I have said nothing but encouraging, supportive things about him, even though it nearly kills me. When D10 started calling him by his first name, I told her she wouldn't be allowed to disrespect her father. When I asked if she wanted him to pick her up this weekend, and she said "he can pick up my cardboard cut out because I want nothing to do with him", I got after her and told her that her father loves her.
I can't see cooling down in another 24 hours, but I'll try.
