I agree. But earning that right to have a relationship with me makes him think again that he is the 'bad guy' and I am perfect.
I don't really see it that way. Maybe you need to look at it the way you would look at a new relationship with a stranger. You would have standards and not settle for less, so why settle now?
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He cannot stand that! Seriously, he throws that in my face all the time.
Of course he does, he is putting the responsibility back on you.
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I so do not think that and have told him that, but it feels like he wants me to beg and grovel and then HE will decide.
Would you do that in a new relationship? If you were to meet someone new wouldn't you want the relationship to be open, honest, caring? Wouldn't yoyu expect to have a relationship of equal give and take? So why expect less from him?
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
