No 2x4 from me, GIMA. I think you have made the correct decision and for the right reason. She's only pretending it doesn't matter - trust me. Her track record has been to move toward you when you drop the rope. And I recall she's very concerned with appearances so showing up without you to a family event will rattle her cage, too. Don't rescue her (I know you won't). Your answer to anything she throws up at you should be in the spirit of "you're done, I'm done."
Be VERY scarce this weekend. Don't take her calls. Sit on them and call her back much later (b/c you are BUSY!) Don't answer texts unless it's about the kids. You know how to play this. You've read Puppy and the boys enough on here to know the drill.
Cheers ~ Greek
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08