Gnosis amd mindful, I ordered 350$ worth of stuff from VS and charged it to his card "by accident" and ordered 2 tiny vibrators (one for me and one for BGF for Christmas- not both for me although I could use a back up one-LOL!!). I plan to start using my new BoB while he sleeps beside me Maybe that would get the point across to him. Of course he may just ask me to go somewhere else not to disrupt his sleep... K