hoping for better times to come

[pearlharbr]

Good job Maple. I know that was hard. Reading the text messages and emails made my stomach turn. But I'm glad to hear that you handled yourself calmly and printed out hard copies.

Was the computer purchased with family money? If so, it can be considered a joint asset and therefore you have a legal right to install a keylogger on it. If you can get your hands on one and get it installed before he leaves then you will have a constant source of information. And you can set it up so you don't have to look at the email reports but you will have them just in case.

I know it's a very emotional time right now, but I just want to urge you to get as much taken care of as soon as possible so you can give yourself a much deserved break once you know your ducks are in a row.