I did it. Gave H speech. H was on computer – told him I needed his complete attention so I could look him in the eyes: Speech given – a little nervousness came out in my voice but overall all my rehearsing served me well. H – ok Me – fair? H – ok I walk upstairs.
H comes up after a few minutes. [overall summary of conversation to follow– I can't recall all the specifics and sorry if its disjointed] H – so you wanna talkabout this Me - [shrug shoulders] H – we are just friends you know Me – You don't keep friends secret H – She is someone I can talk to Me – I want to see your cell/hotmail/ipodtouch/email/facebook now
H gives me phone and OW texts “what” next text “how. Ur are scaring me” [he has deleted previous text/call log since I looked at it the other night] H wanted to know how I found out and told him I wasn't going to tell, that it was irrelevant.
H - “can you blame me” Me - “yes, for the affair, yes”
H says we should sell the house and cohabitat until then in order to ease my adjustment back to work, etc... H brought up last R talk – I guess we had different interpretations: I thought: stay together to work on M H thought: stay together to keep house and cohabitat
So I check hotmail (600+ msgs) 1.signed up for 2 dating sites since at least May 2008 (only one is active and it does not look like he really uses it now but he listed as “single”. 2.suggestive emails with one woman 2008 Go to print emails and H comes over to look and I point to the line “When R U going to 'insert sexual favor here' me again” H – Why can't I talk dirty to someone? I ignore comment H – you can write all you want down but it isn't going to change a thing
H goes out for 15-20 min. I ask him to login to FB for me. Find nothing. H then accuses me of having someone I used to work with at phone company look up his phone records and reminds me its illegal. I assure him that I would never put one of friends in that position because it is illegal. H – I can find out, you know? H is grasping at how his affair was found out. I ain't some stupid house wife, dear. (I did not say that)
I feel kind of sick finding the emails and dating sites too. But I am glad I am starting to see the whole picture but just wonder how many pieces are missing? Has there been mutiple affairs?
H did call his sister to see if he could stay with her but she was not home. I told him he had until Sunday to move out.
