She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

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Another shy guy here too! I have not posted for awhile on my own sitch but I wanted to comment. At the end of october I told my wife that I knew about her ea and that I did not want to be married to her anymore. I told her that I had learned alot about myself throught his experience and that I was thankful for it. I went extremely dark for 2 weeks until we went to a concert with our D8. I was a gentleman, funny, cool and I had plenty of phone calls to answer. I remained dark until the end of november. I decided I would send her a text with an inside joke from the night of the concert. She responded within about 30 seconds. I sent another and again she responded quick. I ended it and a few days later I tried it again. I texted asking about her doctors appointment. She responded quickly again. Now, I think I have sent her texts almost every day for about 2 weeks. So now I am getting even more gutsy, I told her that her hair looks "really hot". I just didnt care what her response might be and there was none. But, she was still very friendly towards me shortly after that and not at all stand offish. You CAN be friendly AND ocasionaly send the message that you find her interesting. It take time.