Not much time to respond, but I wanted to suggest that you begin posting on others' threads as well. It helps you "meet" other people on the board, and you'll get more traffic.

When H dropped the bomb on me, I was very shy as well. It was part of his issue with me. On top of it all, we'd just moved here a year before, and all of my good friends were in a city 2000 miles away. I worked in IC and on my own through GAL stuff and have conquered those fears.

SD

Me: 40
H: 43
H had EA from 2/06-9/06
Bomb 5/06
Piecing since 9/2006
3/2008: Boundary setting
7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb.
8/2010: Marriage finally on track!