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I think the idea is to just let him mull the idea of it (you dating) around awhile in his head so that he can see the ramifications of what he is doing. Like I said, my H's biggest fear is that some other man would step in his shoes and take his place. That fear for him is HUGE. I have no idea if your WH has really considered that as a possibility based on his own actions. Perhaps if he did, and felt that jealousy rise up, it may make him stop and think about his life with OW and how it compares to what he is giving up. (ie, it doesn't!)


Ravenly, this makes complete sense. I really see the suspicion of dating as being something good for our marriage now!

About you parenting alone after your WAF left you and your son--how hard. I really do get some help from WH 5-6 days/week so it could be worse!

I was so worried WH was going to be minimally involved or out of the picture. That would be all it would take for me to wash my hands of him (of course). However, I did have a flash thought today that it would be easier in many ways if WH wasn't around. Like you did, I would carefully be on the lookout for a man who could raise him as his own! I am very happy for you Ravenly!




me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004