It’s amazing how much the little things add up. After being married for 19 years how you do take each other for granted and sometimes become careless with your words...
Doc, You and I are both working hard at changing bad habits, and trying to choose our words carefully. It's a great feeling when our spouse's are trying too.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
[quote=Dr LOve] Doc, You and I are both working hard at changing bad habits, and trying to choose our words carefully. It's a great feeling when our spouse's are trying too.
CL
Hey CL I hope things are going good for ya.
A little inspiration here I hope you see this
Some say love it is a river that drowns the tender reed Some say love it is a razer that leaves your soul to blead
Some say love it is a hunger an endless aching need I say love it is a flower and you it's only seed
It's the heart afraid of breaking that never learns to dance It's the dream afraid of waking that never takes the chance It's the one who won't be taken who cannot seem to give and the soul afraid of dying that never learns to live
When the night has been too lonely and the road has been too long and you think that love is only for the lucky and the strong Just remember in the winter far beneath the bitter snows lies the seed that with the sun's love in the spring becomes the rose The Rose Lyrics by Bette Midler
I do think that with you and I working on being the Sun..
Our wives again can become our Rose Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Doc, It's the first time I've read those lyrics and got their meaning. I've been reading and hearing about "seeds of love" lately--in church, and in books I'm reading. One religious author I'm reading (Thomas Merton) talks about every situation in life as a seed. It's up to us to provide the love or not. Too often in the past with our W's, we've let the seeds blow away. We're both wiser now. Let's both keep enriching the good soil of love.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
Well my "Rose" is wilted... Tonight is the party that I have been looking forward to and guess what... Son brought home a cold from school last week and now wife has it. It’s not bad yet and I told her to go get some rest and I did the dishes and have kept the house warm for her. She has not mentioned not going yet and I have to admit I would not blame her if she does but I hate to lose the money for the tickets... Oh well besides that everything is going smooth... I still am a little impatient sometimes wanting to hurry up this process not sure how much longer it will take. But I do get inspirations reading here how some of my DB buddies wives have come around after two years....
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Well MIL called and she was Lonely... It has been raining all day so I told her I would come over and visit. When I got home W told me that she was too sick to go to the party. She said she really wanted to go but she has a temp. I told her no problem I really wanted to dance with her tonight but I also want her to get better before X mas so I will go alone. I have NEVER gone to a function like this alone and am a little nervous but I guess that is what GALing is all about. I am not worried about W because son is here but I will ask her if she wants me to stay home. If not then CL I will be dancing with off duty female police officers tonight...Hummmmm I have never been hand cuffed before.......BAD BOY Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Ok so after I made sure W was settled in I did go. BUT….. It was not the same. I have to admit a few months ago when the Party date was set I was living the “single married” life and I wanted to go by myself and have a good t time. But somehow these last few months I started living the “almost married” life and was really looking forward to taking my WIFE and dancing the night away. Then she got sick and I could tell she wanted to go but just couldn’t. The food was great but I was kind of a wall flower. I did however win three raffle prizes... One was an ice chest on wheels filled with IPA Beer. (A local brewery) the second was another ice chest on wheels but this was filled with Papst blue ribbon beer. And the third was a $10 dollar start buck card. Soon after the dancing started I went home. Wife was already in bed (her room) but her door was open and she asked me to get her some medicine from the cupboard. I did and then went to bed myself. This morning I had to leave early to take care of some business and when I got home Wife was up but she said she felt like Krap. She said feel me I think I have a temp. I said “feel you?” (I am sorry my mouth went into gear before my brain) she said FEEL MY HEAD… I did and she was warm. I asked her if I could get her anything….and she gave me a list of juices and other stuff she wanted from the store. I went to the store and got her things and also bought stuff to make some home made chicken soup. I made the soup when I got home.
I feel bad that I have had some bad thoughts about what happened when I know she is sick. But I am a weak man and my animal desires sometimes take over. Well I got to go I did see W washed some clothes today and they are in the basket in OUR room. So tonight before bed I will fold them.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Im'e thinking what you said didn't set you back and good for you to take care of her and have empathy about her not being able to go with you instead of being mad that it ruined your plans.
When your "animal desires" take hold find a way to take care of them without bringing someone else into the R
Remember slow and steady wins the race. And I don't mean it that way if your mind is in the gutter Doc.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
Doc
(I am sorry my mouth went into gear before my brain) she said FEEL MY HEAD… 
I did and she was warm. I asked her if I could get her anything….and she gave me a list of juices and other stuff she wanted from the store. I went to the store and got her things and also bought stuff to make some home made chicken soup. I made the soup when I got home.
