Wow, so impressed you played hardball with him, as well you should! Let him beg to talk to you, he made the bed and he should lie in it for awhile...
When I am tempted to call H I picture our relationship as that patient on ER or Grey's Anatomy where the docs have been working and working but the guy is gone, finally someone forces the persistent doc to stop trying CPR and let it go...
We can try and try with all our might but if they are 'gone', it is pointless...not to say the M will never recover, but for now we have to accept it just isn't there...
