You are a winner flowergurlie. This is most impressive:
Quote:
An hour after that I responded with a text back "I will set up a meeting with you when I finish having everything prepared, until then I'm not available
I cried and suffered the heartbreak for at least a year before I was able to speak to my H like this.
And this is proof positive that a tough stance works:
Quote:
Voicemail message left from him "I need you to call me back when you have a second - curious to know what there is to prepare - why you can't even speak with me when you have to prepare, i'm kind of curious on that one - so, if you would please call me back."
I'm proud of you and will continue to follow your sitch.
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
Beautiful. You have him wondering, and I suspect messing his drawers a bit. Stay strong.
I would like to bet the long shot that of you stay strong and dark until you have the papers, he is gonna come crawling back singing a different tune...Don't you believe it...
Me 44 She 46 S13 D9 M18 T23 3 years DB'ing Successfully busted
AFG, you're doing so well! Get the shark attorney. Remember, you are responsible for looking out for your best interests. Don't feel guilty, he chose his actions so he chose the consequences.
Now go out and do something fun for AFG!
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
My plan is to set up a meeting with him when I have the terms of the divorce settlement that I will be asking for finished and ready for him to sign. Until then, I have nothing to hear from him and nothing to say to him.
Hi, I've only caught a small portion of your sitch. But I wanted to say you sound great. Best of luck with this. I agree with others - you have a smart plan and you are showing tremendous strength.
And..yeah...I say get everything you can. He made the choices that ultimately ended your marriage, it's time for you to take care of you.
Me: 34 H: 34 DD: 3 M: 8 yrs H moved out Oct. 2008, "not happy" "don't know what I want" "will always love you, but not in love with you" PA Bomb: April 5, 2010
Wow, so impressed you played hardball with him, as well you should! Let him beg to talk to you, he made the bed and he should lie in it for awhile...
When I am tempted to call H I picture our relationship as that patient on ER or Grey's Anatomy where the docs have been working and working but the guy is gone, finally someone forces the persistent doc to stop trying CPR and let it go...
We can try and try with all our might but if they are 'gone', it is pointless...not to say the M will never recover, but for now we have to accept it just isn't there...
