Finding thanks and gratitude

[catfan]

Hmm, no responses to my last post. But no mind, beginning in the "Separated but not done" forum I've had a quasi journal going, so no need to break from that now....

On the topic of post separation/divorce relationships. Yes, I have had a few, 4 exactly, none lasting more than 6 months. My current one just hit 6 months. 6 months and 1 day ago we had our first "date", we met for coffee. On that night I was just taken by her. A couple of weeks later while out rather later, we danced for the first time together. After a song or two the band played a slow song, I wish I could remember what, but oh well. She placed her head on my chest, her arms folded between us and I wrapped my arms around her. At that moment I knew...I just knew this could go somewhere special. I'd already known to could go somewhere but not somewhere really special.

Fast forward to today, we balance delicately, oh so delicately this relationship. With her needs and DBing in mind, just two weeks ago I told her to take time for her, that I'd give her "space". Amazingly that probably has given this relationship a chance again as she deals with the chaos in her own life. (She's separated, I know red flag.) I've continued to try to give her space while maintaining our connection, a text here or there and a phone call or two. Just maintaining a connection.

This past Saturday we went to a sporting event. She'd purchased tickets and given them to me for my birthday a month before. It was the first time we'd seen each other since I had said take your time. The day started off a little odd but in the end we had a great time together embracing one another and kissing passionately.

Since then, communication between us (texting and calls) has improved as has the general demeanor too. It's not back to the sticky sweet it was before but it's definitely clear there's a connection again. With that, tonight we made initial plans for New Years. It was nice to hear, "I would like to spend it with you too" from her and not in a just saying it to be nice way.

As Michele says, baby steps. And a bit of advice from my mother this past Sunday (FYI, I finally told my Mom about me and the new woman, she had slight issues I hadn't been honest with my mom.) My Mom's advice to me, "Catfan, if you really like her, take it slow. Take it slow so she can catch up to you. No need to rush things. If she likes you...(and a look, one of those motherly looks)" So, even though she won't ever see this, Thanks Mom, Love You!! And to miss special, I will publicly say, here at least for now (and a somewhat safe place too because I know you won't see it), I love you, you've captured me. :-)

Oh and yes, peanut gallery, I do hope to here about your post D relationships and how you've managed them. Gotta share experiences here so we all get it right the next time around!!