Hi Cutterbug, I just read a little of your posts, but I can totally relate. What you have felt with your W, is what I have felt with my H. I love my H, but these days I dislike him and his actions. It's so hard to try to figure out when it's time to move on especially when in your heart you still feel love.
When I get more time, I'm gonna try to read more to get more info about your sitch. In the meantime, I hope it helps to know that myself and others care. When I say my nightly prayers, I pray for everyone on these boards. Although our situations might be different, they are all too similar. And I think we can all use prayers.
I know what you mean about wanting to shine the light. When I was at the Hallmark store I found myself in the husband section of the cards...why? IDK...I actually found a card that talked about pain and forgiveness in a marriage. I bought it - don't know if I will give it to him though. It was so good that I really want to, but that kinds goes against DB. It's hard though especially around Christmas.
Me: 34 H: 34 DD: 3 M: 8 yrs H moved out Oct. 2008, "not happy" "don't know what I want" "will always love you, but not in love with you" PA Bomb: April 5, 2010