DBD, If he is TM to you at least that is contact initiated by him. You can chose to ignore or respond depending where you are on your DBing efforts. From what I have read on other threads this might be Limbo Land for him, or he is looking for that safety net. I get torn myself about showing interest and the possibility of the WAS wanting to start some sort of reconciliation or if I should continue with the GAL and not returning every TM, email, vmail etc. I think that when the WAS is ready to really to try at the M we will all know it. I think it is great that you are feeling like you do not care, I think that you are detatching!!! It starts to take the emotions out of your decisions. I think that as the LBS we all are afraid of "detatchment" to the point where if the WAS were to come crawling back for reconciliation, that we will be totally over them and not want to work on the R at that point. I think you are doing great!!! Hang in there, again this is the patience part, the hard part, the really hard part. As the LBS we have to be stronger than the WAS.
Formerly "missherlove"
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Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
