That's a lot going on. Do you have an attorney? An attorney can slow things down if you want him to or speed it up.

Are you actually dating?

I don't believe I'm facing an OM. I've read lots of threads though and your W is going through withdrawel. That's going to take a while.

In terms of the divorce talk. If you don't want a divorce then end the conversations when it gets around to that or find a way to change the subject.

Has she actually filed for it?

Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11
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