Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

Ravenly--no problem! I don't remember now if the 50/50 starts a 1 or 3, but I do agree that it sounds like it would be very disruptive to his routine. It's such a hard thing. I feel for all the kids from divorced families. I pray to God every day that WH will not D and choose R.

I think you are right that he should come to my house for visitation if we D, BUT how does that work if I have a boyfriend?

As for not filing, we don't talk about relationship stuff and I do not bring up the divorce--part of my divorcebusting plan. I have only noticed him being nice to me and I don't know what it means.

About the wine--not a big deal unfortunately! Serving me is kind of extra nice, though!

I do hear what you are saying about being suspicious of dating. If someone is suspicious, it doesn't mean they will actually do anything major, right? Just ask questions and try to confirm their suspicions?

Today he arrived with starbucks coffee for me.He sent me a text asking while I was asleep so I thought it would be too late to let him know but he just brought me my favorite drink anyway!...I can't help but remember that he used to always get starbucks for OW last year. I knew about it and didn't think it was suspicious. I think I figured she got it sometimes for him too. And there were other people in their work group who sometimes ordered coffee too.

Anyway, so I got to work baking cookies right away, and we made chit chat while he took care of our son.Sometimes there was silence too. I left to get my hair done and when I returned we took photos of our boy. He wished us a good night and said he would miss our boy.

So let's see...there were a couple of things that stood out to me as good. (now remember I do overanalyze but who cares!!! :-) I know that actions are more important.)

1)I was singing a song and he picked up on it and started singing too (on purpose, not subconsciously)

2) At least 3 times he moved right next to me-to look over my shoulder at the camera photos, when I was leaning over the paknplay to play with our baby and when I was icing the cookies.

3) He said that if the weather was bad this weekend, he would still come over but that he would not drive back and forth to anywhere (okay so this may not be a big deal but I am just kind of waiting for the day when he says he won't be taking our son over there)

My hair looks gorgeous by the way!!