P17 There is one theory that thrives here. And that is you do Plan A and Plan B for your spouse. This is not correct. This is all for yourself.
You do not do all this work to get back with her. You do this work to grow. This all about you now. No one else. Look who benifits the most from this. Your daughter. That is the first person who benifits from this. Life has some very hard lessons. This is one of the hardest. Going dark will give you the chance to grown and learn from this. You have a long life ahead of you. You will come out of this a better and stonger person. One who will know about boundaries. One who will stand up and be an equal in life.
But only if you take the time to learn the lessons being offered here.
I hope to learn them as well.
And as you read this I know your thinking that I am cycling. And yes I am. I am having a very hard week. First one in awhile. I know what triggered it. It was the comment that ladybug is living 3 to 4 days with OP and then at home.
So we support each other.
Vent away my friend. Your mom passed this week. My heart goes out to you. What ever I can do to help you the next few weeks I will.
P.S. this cycle has made me rather emotional. I even made ladybug a CD of tunes.
