I have saved all the cards, letters, poems, everything! XH never denies that he loved me, in fact he says he never stopped loving me just fell in love with someone else. It is just plain crazy talk! Love is a feeling, commitment is marriage!
At first my husband said he still loved me but just fell "in love" with the OW. That is just chemicals in the brain talking...But now that he broke it off with her (although they still have the baby bond to go through)he tells me he thinks of me only as a friend. Maybe that is all he needs right now. I could use a bit more though. Sometimes I think my husband's fog maybe lifting and then he becomes an alien again. He asked me to meet him for lunch on Friday. I told him okay. We will see how that goes.
As far as our finances - I split those when this all first started. The only thing we have together is our vehicle insurance and of course the house insurance. We tried to sell our house at short sale but it fell through. So he is going to live there and we are trying to get a loan modification so that he can afford to make the payments without my help.
I hope your short sale works out for you. Will you take your husband back when he finally wakes up realizes what he has lost?
