I have considered calling the DB coaches and I likely will do so soon. I have had my two boys for 8 days straight, so I gotta play a little catch up ball first.
I truly believe she is telling the truth about the incident because the fear I saw 18 years ago was real and palpable when we started making love while dating.
Not to pat myself on the back, but I am a trustworthy person (alluding to your comment from a previous post). I think for several reasons, she found me trustworthy. We met through a mutual friend who was a great college friend of her BFF. So the introduction was not a "picked up in a bar" situation. I am decent looking, well dressed, and clean. I held an extremely responsible, well-paid job then as now. We took escalating the physical part of our relationship very slow. First date Aug 27, first kiss Sep 6, first time exploring each other was Sept 13. First time making love together was a few weeks later. I can't believe I am saying this ...
The fact that she shot down the significance of the incident when I brought it up to her later (because of the weak and strong theme), I think, reinforces my thought that her incident happened pretty much as she said. She denied that the incident had any effect on her, and she "worked through it herself."
Her exact words the initial time she told me about were "<he-name withheld> r#ped me on the floor of his fraternity house." I don't think she could have made up that story.
I have never caught her in a lie, even a white lie or a quibble, until her EA started in March or so of this year. She told me about the incident about 4 months before the EA got started.
