Is this the end of my marriage?

[LiveToLearn]

I'd appreciate if you could ju7mp back to my reply to your post and let me know how I do the 180 and remove the R as a possibility and also become a HARDASS while still keeping NC.

In my opinion your doing just that by GAL. The longer you go with no contact the more she will believe that the R is off the table. I do not think this is something you say or do but something that is communicated by just being the new confidant you.

Also when people report back that you are dating again she will start thinking about the possibility that it is off the table.

One day she will be over this guy. Then it will be her turn to decide what she wants and my guess is you will get that call.

I was at the same point you were about 2 months ago. I took her back too easy and now I do not think I will get another chance. Oh well, mostly sad for the kids. If the opportunity arises again I will play it much better.

The other problem that I am dealing with is that my W is trying to move the relationship into the general acquaintance relationship. She still has so many feeling left for the guy who was a big looser and dumped her that she somehow feels it is wrong to come back to me since she destroyed the M. So I am in the waiting game… after the affair… then comes the loss of the affair.

Keep having faith. I believe you’re going to make your life better. Then I believe you will get another chance. Remember though she is never going to be the lady you married. You will have the chance to try again or leave her in the dust. I would put money on it.