Sorry to hear about your daughter. Really glad she's ok.
As far as your accepting his kindess for the ride, that's really up to you. Just remember to keep the expectations way down. If you'd rather take on snow driving, it's ok to do that too.
I think your right that all of this tends to put a new spin on what's a little thing and what isn't. I let a whole lot more go these days.
The holidays are a matter of perspective too. It's hard for the kids, but you have the choice to lighten their load by your attitude. My D's and I do things now that we didn't before and it's all in the vein of new traditions.
