You know, for a support system I'm feeling very...judged at the moment. Maybe my wording is ambiguous because you can't see my face or hear my tone of voice.
I do NOT feel like a victim. I have simply accepted that some things happen as a result of other things.
As for this:
"Good luck to you, then; you guys have too many issues to sort out on your own." (sorry I don't know how to do the embedded quote yet)
I didn't say I am opposed to MC. But there is a time and a place for everything, and this is not an option for now.
I didn't say I intend to stand by and not fight back. But I know for a fact that if my H had laid down ultimatums or demanded I go to MC during my A, it would have made the situation worse. I had to come back to our marriage on my own and at my own time. An A is a bit like a rollercoaster - you ride until the end. You know it WILL end, but no one will convince you to get off before it does.
DB and DR may have some good ideas; as I haven't had a chance to read them yet I think the criticisms are a bit premature. I also get it that there is a tough love element to getting through this, even from my support system. But this is a process for me and being told that I'm doing it wrong is less than helpful and, I think, incorrect. Not everything is right for every person. If I am to have to defend myself every time I disagree on what is best for me and my marriage, perhaps this is not the best place for me.
undefeated 24 H 24 S's 4, 2, 1 M 5 yrs
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." ~Dale Carnegie
