No anger, no attitude at all. Just a tinge of sadness. That sadness is slightly encouraging. It may be the beginning of a little remorse. I dunno... don't try read too much into it.
What is going on with her? She is not responding how I'm expecting. Don't have any expectations.
Originally Posted By: futureunknown
Again I'm worried I've pushed her away for good. Is she just so good at playing this game? Didn't sound like a game on the phone. She sounded sad, but accepting of the situation. How can SHE be the one who's heartbroken? This is crazy! Is she really putting this on me, that I'm the one who ended our M?
You're trying to mindread. You don't know what she's thinking. If she's accepting of the situation maybe she's going to start regretting her actions. Let her wallow in self-pity for a while. Let her think it's over. You wanted the CRISIS... this is part of it. Just like your own mind is your worst enemy, so is hers. Her sadness is a signal of her questioning if this was all worth it.
Later on in the game... after your mediation and before you sign the papers you can throw her a bone. In the meantime you let her wallow in sadness and hope that it grows into regret. You're not even half-way through this process yet.
Patience grasshopper. This is a mindgame. She's good at it... but you're getting better.
Oh, and if you're wondering how I come up with all this SH!T... my mother is an professional emotional blackmailer (I had 28 years of that crap until I put my foot down on it... and she STILL manages to get me sometimes.) And my W is a psychologist. I often joked to friend that I was her guinea pig... I don't do that anymore.
