Be careful. I was a verbal abuser (even thou W thinks that maybe I was not). We do play and hide. It took me over 1 year to get to where I am now(with my behavior). Your H can change, but it will take alot of hard work, love & patience. Never give up. Make the choice and work thru it. A stronger marriage is on the other side....
In my opinion it's not really appropriate to tell someone dealing with verbal/emotional abuse to NEVER give up. That's a bit extreme. SHE doesn't have the make the choice, HE does.
Abuse is notoriously hard to change. And it's actually considered a very bad idea to go to MC with an abuser, because they usually use it against you. I would never see a counselor that wasn't well familiar with abuse issues (and most aren't).
I am not telling you TO give up, soleil, but I wouldn't tell you to just keep believing it can work out either. Most abusers don't change. And the ones that really want to find it very difficult. So keep your eyes open and your expectations real. Because many victims rely on "hope" not reality.
