If I compare him to my own H, we didn't ML very often for the years coming up to our almost D, and he even said during our sitch that he was fine with our sex life. I thought the problem was something totally different. Well guess what. I got way horny during that sitch because I couldn't have him, so I was as big a flirt as ever, and although he seemed like he was unmoved...(didn't reciprocate much but didn't say no very well either) BUT as things progressed and he started walking down my path instead of her path...and after how our sex life has been since...woah. totally totally different. and OBVIOUSLY there was a problem before, because I just thought he didn't want to do it cause, 1 he didn't think I was attractive enough, and 2 he was tired, and 3, I thought he had got his wild side out and was "old".
Gee, ST... you couldn't have described our life (prior to 12/2007) any better!! Down to what "I" thought was "our" cause...
Hmmmmmmm.....
ST - So, H loves to be adored. D18 fawns all over him like he's a freaking legend, the funniest thing that ever lived, etc... You can just see him SOAK it up. I mean, come on, I've heard all of these DUMB jokes 800+ times! And, she just LAUGHSLAUGHSLAUGHS... Asks her friends, "Did you just hear that one?" And, "OH, Geez, DAD, tell that story again about the blahblahblah...." I think she gets him better than I do! LoL Maybe I need to work that?!
Last edited by mindfull; 12/09/0910:09 PM.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
