Are your previous threads. You need to keep writing on your thread. And people will reply
What do you do when she and the OM have issues?
'Never interrupt your enemy while he is busy making a mistake' Napoleon
As for your mistakes the other night.
Carry on like nothing happened. And next time you go out with her. Don't have a few drinks and argue. Look at your history. Change that. What ever causes triggers... Do not let them happen.
Next time go for a coffee or desert.
And the next time she says no. Stop. Do not pressure her. Leave it at that. Nomeansno.
Did you hear this "She says he smothers her and she really does not want to have to answer to anyone" and this "She said that I had never been that patient" and this "she reminded me that this was not a date"
Think about that for awhile.
Think about how you could have listened and acted with those clues.