UPDATE: Saw my wife at my son's Xmas Holiday Program today at his preschool. She was very apologetic about being late this morning, and said she wants to stay the night tonight bc she misses her boys. Also wants to get a Xmas tree and decorate it.
Or Señor new guy is indisposed. How do you know about his marital status? Did you get that from your wife? She might have lied to you or he might have lied to her. It might be worth an email to his wife.
In any event, she is doing what Puppy calls "normalizing." That is she is trying to retain the parts of family life that she likes while destroying the marriage. Coach is right...she is testing you to see if you'll let her get away with it.
Don't wait for her to fight you on the coming and going, have an attorney spell it out in writing. As long as you are "discussing" the matter between the two of you, she will feel that she has room to negotiate. Read Coach's thread. One of the reasons for his success is that he played hard ball, and never blinked.
