how to 180 when you've been too independent?

[pitinmygut]

I don't know if she is an A or not, but now I am swaying more towards YES. I have no proof of one....I am only basing that on the fact that has easily moved on.

I am not sure if we will have any conversations since I think the lawyers will do most of that (once I retain one).

The reasons she gave are pretty much spot on with the WAS syndrome....you know, doing most of the work to keep the R going and then getting to a breaking point.


I don't totally blame her for the situation we are in. I know I was a below average husband. With that said, I always thought we would would find a way to make it work. We went through a lot in the last few years (a cancer diagnosis for me, on crutches for 15 months - and difficulties with having children).

I wasn't around much after we did have the baby due to being out of the house for 12 hours a day for work...also her business was not doing well. The baby slept with her (due to nursing) and I slept in another room because I had to get up very early....but that definitely created issues for us. She became very stressed out. One day while I was at work she could barely get out of bed and I think that was the day that she began her WAS ways.