No, no common law here.

No marriage makes it easy to walk away; on the other hand I am spared all the pain of the divorce and separation that everyone else is going through.

wow wow wow.

so get my own life (which I have; I'm just entering grief phase now and have to go through that)

If the A ends, and he wants to talk...I may be there, I may not, right?

Have to work on the mental discipline to keep him out of my mind.

Me: 44
Him: 42
Together: 23 years; never married
Bomb: August 1, 2009
Affair since May 2009
Walk away; no conversation; no process