I wasn't saying keep reminding him. All I was suggesting is maybe just make him aware of what bills he is responsible for one time and then let it fall on him from here on out. Of course I am assuming that he may not be aware of what bills are his just from reading your posts. I could be wrong. Certainly don't mother him.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
He probably has no idea what he is supposed to pay, but, I'm not sure that's my problem. I'll think on it, and decide how much help I want to give him.
He has been acting like an a$$ to me, so I'm really losing my desire to help him avoid effing up his life.
I don't even think about ML with him anymore, and that is MAJOR for me.
He has been acting like an a$$ to me, so I'm really losing my desire to help him avoid effing up his life.
If you can, separate the bills as best you can so he can't eff up your credit by not paying. Then let him have at it.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
I like what you did. The only thing I think you might do is set up any email reminders of bills he is responsible for to go to him, so that he has a clue. Same with any paper bills that might be his problem. It's one thing to say he should know that they need to be paid, but in some cases he really might not know who gets paid. But don't be his mommy!
That was what I was trying to get across. But I may not have communicated it right.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
You said it right, Kevin. I'm just being hard headed and not seeing why it is my responsibility. But, he really hasn't done any of this stuff e v e r, so I guess I need to be the bigger person and help him get started in his new life.
S5 asked to call Dad. I hand him my phone, and he presses Dad's speed dial number.
S5 - Dad what are you doing? Dad - laying on the floor. S5 - One of the computers upstairs doesn't work. Dad - I'll come fix it when your mom isn't around. S5 - Bye Dad.
S5 hangs up, collapes into a puddle of tears, and tells me "he's never coming back because of you." Then he says..."he doesn't want to be around you." My heart broke. This isn't my fault.
I am pissed, and I doubt I can wait 2 days to confront him about this. I already let it go when D8 told me he said he left because of me.
that is just heartbreaking that he is so insensitive to say something like that to your little one.....YOU are a strong, beautiful woman that he doesn't deserve. i'm glad to see your ire is up and that you wont stand for the unacceptable! i know how worried you must be about your children, but they will be great, they are lucky to have a wonderful mom like you and they know this is not your fault.
