I think he must be content with a "marriage" with no emotion. Kind of like my XW was, though she skipped (as far as I know) the affair part. She wasn't committed enough to staying in the marriage to do anything about it, and she wasn't committed enough to leaving the marriage to do anything about it. So, it all ended up being up to me, in the end. Which might make me the bad guy, but if I EVER hear that she didn't want it, and I filed... well, I will be a little bit angry! And I might say some not nice things. I have no interest in anyone in real life knowing the facts, because it's not their business. I don't think it's a problem, I never expect her to say it was anything but mutual, and I am willing to live with that, even though I think one of us was more committed than the other.
