Thanks Nut and Puppy. Great advice, which I will take to heart.
Puppy, I said exactly those words to her when she had the "shower accident." Almost verbatim.
Stupid question: How do I block a number? Should I just block it on my phone? Do I call TMobile to do that?
Ohio is a no fault state, so maybe I dont get a PI. I'm darn sure going to stop worrying about her and start taking better care of me and my boys. I am going to model what toughness really is for them, and I know I can do that while detaching comfortably.
UPDATE: Saw my wife at my son's Xmas Holiday Program today at his preschool. She was very apologetic about being late this morning, and said she wants to stay the night tonight bc she misses her boys. Also wants to get a Xmas tree and decorate it.
My thoughts: First, I don't want her home! I'm getting comfortable with my night time routine with the boys, and I am now watching Deadwood, the entire series, straight through. So she's interrupting that, and it pisses me off. Second, I don't want her thinking she can come and go like this.
My solutions:
1. Have a talk to her about laying out living arrangements. I.e., no coming and going, you can see the boys these days, etc. If she fights me on coming and going, I'm going to insist on a legal separation complete with all the docs that go with that. Right now we are simply separated by homes.
2. I'm going to go on some coffee dates with women. I'm not in any shape to get into anything big and emotional, but I feel better knowing that my WAW isn't the only woman in the world. Plus, who doesn't want to feel wanted?
3. I'm going to demand that she get a room at an extended stay hotel for a home base, so I can drop boys off, etc. They need a mom that's stable and in one place. I think she's been staying with Mr Dbag the past few nights.
Thoughts? Appreciate everyone's help. It would be cool to have DB In-Person groups by cities, so everyone could meet one night a week or something and support each other.
