I guess my question is how long can I continue this while she is out living the single life?
That's up to you.
As long as she is in the fog of an affair, she may never pull out of it.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement