I am leery of "dating" any other women right now. I have had social plans (coffee and dinner) with other women. Ironically in this town of 60,000 people, both women were only one degree of separation from my WAW. One was a sorority daughter of one of her new man-hating divorcee friends, and the other was the little sister of her best appropriate male friend at the school where she regularly subs. I expect word will filter back to her that I am desirable to others.
She has definitely seen me moving on and GALing. She has even received emails and comments from friends about seeing me at running events, and how good I look because I have lost so much weight. :-)
GALing-taking adult ed. classes, rearranging the furniture in our house, running every race at 10K or below in the area, losing 30 pounds, new nicer clothes, kicked up the wardrobe from khaki pants casual to wool pants upscale casual each day, new glasses that I wear in public, getting more involved in church and other activities, meeting new F friends without "really" trying.
As far as communications. I have strictly limited it to business, except for one supportive text before a grad school presentation she made last Mon (first non-business in a month). I don't plan to do any more extraneous texts for a long while.
I am reasonably pleasant but slightly detached when we talk. I always push to end our discussions on the phone or in person.
I always have plans instead of watching our boys when she last minute asks-kinda common unfortunately-during her time. Her changes are never stated to be with OM, but she tries to make herself open now during the times when they were together in the past. She has them <50% anyway.
I will avoid talk about our R.
She knows what I think about each of those R topics anyway.
I definitely do not want to appear weak. It has taken me a long time to dig out from being a world class groveler. :-)
