7 months in but still a mess.

[TrentC]

She still has feelings left for me but her logic is probably something like this. "If I had not married you then I would have been with him and his life and mine would have been better. I missed my chance with my soul mate because of you. If I had ever REALLY loved you I would never have had feelings for someone else. That is how I know we are not meant to be together."

You can try to analyze why she is doing what she is doing or saying what she is saying, but there's a good chance that she doesn't really know how she feels either.

WAS's are not guided by logic. Spouses having affairs are running on emotion (with a healthy pinch of entitlement sprinkled on top).