in your case, i don't have as much of a problem with it. I certainly wouldn't say "offended".
IDK, I just tend to not air as much stuff out there for public consumption or whatever. That's just me though. We all have our own thread 'abodes' and we can do whatever we want with them. That is the cool part. Just a micro of life really.
I think I have worked on my neediness quite a bit. I don't show any neediness towards W anymore. I live separately from her. I don't call her for anything unless it is finance related or kid related.
I come to terms more each day with my sitch. I don't like it and I want it to turn around and I do think she is starting to soften some, probably because I have laid off of her and have been doing my own thing. I think FaithfulH would agree from talking with him last night.
He said to think about the conversation that had to occur between my W and her mom for me to have been invited for Christmas. That actually was big. I am still playing it cool though and doing my own thing with my life and my girls.
Tomato, sorry I missed your call last night. I got my new phone and hadn't finished updating my contacts so I didn't recognize the number when you called. Last night after dinner at home I finished updating my contacts and realized that was you that called.
I think I am much further along in DBing than I have ever been which is significant in my mind. I still have those moments driving home alone at night after work without my kids that I will cry at times and wish things were different. But I am pulling through much better these days. I am still hopeful about a future reconciliation especially with hearts starting to soften a bit for the first time since this has begun. But I am also realistic that it is still a very long road to recovery. But I think I am making the right steps in the right direction for a change and sticking with it.
I don't know if 25 will agree. She might not. And she might be right if she does not. But I feel like I am so much further along anymore than I used to be.
My kids told me the other night they still want us together and D11 told me she was happy that I have been invited to spend Christmas with the family. My MIL actually told D11 as well that I am invited. D11 also had talked to W's dad on the phone and he actually told D11 to tell me hi. He has also been against me for most of this past year. So I must be doing something right for them all to start taking a change towards me.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
What are you doing on here anywayze. Thought your job had you supremely busy?
It has been. We finished everything up last night. I have another meeting to go into in 20 minutes, but I finally had a bit of down time this morning. So I got on and posted.
Thanks for the prayers. Always need them.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
How do you like your Droid? My D18 wants one for Xmas. Either that or her windows tinted on her car. That one is tough to wrap under the tree
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
The droid is so totally awesome. There is nothing I can't do with it. I spend more time on it than my computer. I highly recommend it. She will love it.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
