Yes, there probably is someone else. I just don't call it an affair when we are separated and she's not trying to work on the M.
If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck...
If it's an obstacle to trying to rebuild your R, then it's an affair.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement