Not Me...Ever part 2

[Serenity13]

Good One Coach - Thank you

Well it happened - I received the blame from my oldest Son...

Told me his Dad doesn't like me and wouldn't be coming home and I needed a new job to pay for stuff since his Dad needed his money to pay his stuff and he shouldn't have to give me anything until we decide if we are divorcing...

Then and only then would he take sides -

Let him know I didn't want him to take either side and I would talk to him when he could speak to me respectfully, turned and walked away.

Looks like DBing works for all of our relationships.

[TrentC]

Let him know I didn't want him to take either side and I would talk to him when he could speak to me respectfully, turned and walked away.

Looks like DBing works for all of our relationships.

That it does.

[Coach]

Told me his Dad doesn't like me and wouldn't be coming home and I needed a new job to pay for stuff since his Dad needed his money to pay his stuff and he shouldn't have to give me anything until we decide if we are divorcing...

This isn't a convo your H should be having with your son. Time for a BOUNDARY.

[Serenity13]

Coach ~

This isn't a convo H had with S (that I know of) - It is the "feeling" S gets from what has gone down.

He hates that H isn't paying anything but thinks H has his bills and we have our bills and basically we shouldn't have to do without because H is being a douche so I in turn should get a different job.

I set my boundary by changing cell providers as well as cancelling H cell service. I didn't inform H of my new number nor S's new number. I figure if he wants to get ahold of us he can call the house.

I am tired of paying for his affair to continue so I am trying to find ways to move forward without going against my beliefs as well.

[Serenity13]

Received an email from H almost 2 hours ago - All he said was "Making sure things are ok over there" Do I respond?

Crap - I can't believe 7 words from him still make me feel like crying and shake inside.

[TrentC]

Delete it and move on. ((Serenity))

[motherof3]

No, do not respond right now. Wait until much later to respond or do not respond at all.

Just my $0.02.

Mo3

[Serenity13]

Delete it and move on.

Really? That isn't showing spite on my part?

[TrentC]

Delete it and move on.

Really? That isn't showing spite on my part?

Do you think he genuinely cares what's going on with you and your kids? Or is it just small talk?

[Serenity13]

I really don't know anymore since he hasn't made any attempt at contact since Halloween - Damn I feel torn