Thx for all advice, cutterbug and R2C.

I have been working with my therapist on my anxiety. I just have not reached a point yet where I can control and re-direct my thoughts.

I responded to cutterbug's note about him being embarrassed from my iphone--not sure it went through.

But, basically, AFAIK, he is not ashamed. When he first ran into a group of friends with her, he was angry and hurt that they were cold to him. He brought OW to "our" theatre group, hanging out after rehearsals and shows. He isn't hiding her away. So I don't think I have shame/embarrassment on my side.

It's a public forum, the sort of thing he (and I) are very comfortable with.

Most everyone knows the sitch, but I don't know how many know how cruelly he dumped me. I'm sure he's not sharing that!

I will get some girlfriends, look good, get there early, and leave early.

Wish me luck!


Me: 44
Him: 42
Together: 23 years; never married
Bomb: August 1, 2009
Affair since May 2009
Walk away; no conversation; no process